“Let’s be friends.” It’s an easy line to drop during a break up, as it intends to ease the pain of a breaking heart. But should you be friends with your ex? Here are 10 reasons why you can’t be friends when the relationship is over: 1. It’s torture. You’re hanging out “as friends.” He does […]
Category: breaking up
Five Ways to Deal with the ‘Blindsided’ Breakup
You’ve been dating someone special for several weeks. Or months. Or even years. How long you’ve been together isn’t as important as the fact that you thought you were happy. No wonder this breakup came as a surprise. And to make matters worse, their reasons for breaking up just don’t make sense. Like out of left […]
It’s Over: Should You Give Back the Engagement Ring After a Breakup?
As a relationship coach, it’s definitely not my job to publicly weigh in on celebrity disputes when I don’t even know the people involved. It is my job, however, to look for “teachable moments” and try to provide value to people that will help create more conscious, loving and productive relationships. This is one of […]
After the Breakup: The Most Important Thing to Do Before ‘Getting Back Out There’
As a breakup therapist, and author of the blog and book, “Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You,” I receive many questions about what to do before getting back out there. My clients and readers are male and female, of all ages and […]
Deciding Factors: Eight Solid Reasons to Break Up
Why You Shouldn’t Brood About the One Who Got Away
It always hurts when someone breaks up with us, even if it happens after a single date. The more we perceived the person as being ‘right’ for us, the more we pictured ourselves with them, the more we allowed our expectations to build, the greater our heartache and disappointment can be. It’s natural to reflect […]
15 Ways to Get Up When Life Knocks You Down
Sometimes life feels like a boating excursion on a sunny afternoon—smooth sailing, peaceful, and enjoyable. Other times it can feel more like a boxing match, where you are pummeled and down for the count. Everyone has times when they endure setbacks, disappointments, and failures. Psychologists and spiritual leaders agree that resilience is what makes the difference between […]
Why Forgiveness is Necessary When it Comes to Love
We’ve all heard the saying “forgive and forget,” but how many of us truly know what this means or how to do it? Forgiveness involves engaging with a complex series of emotions – anger, pain, frustration, and fear – which most of us try to avoid. Unfortunately, we can’t escape these feelings in life, at […]
How to Move On After Being Rejected
Why Rejection Isn’t All About You
When someone you care about ends a relationship, it can evoke feelings that range from disbelief to despair and everything in between. “How could this happen?” you think. “There must be something wrong with me.” The same is true when someone with whom you’d like to explore a relationship doesn’t return the interest. “I thought […]