“Let’s be friends.” It’s an easy line to drop during a break up, as it intends to ease the pain of a breaking heart. But should you be friends with your ex? Here are 10 reasons why you can’t be friends when the relationship is over: 1. It’s torture. You’re hanging out “as friends.” He does […]
You’ve been dating someone special for several weeks. Or months. Or even years. How long you’ve been together isn’t as important as the fact that you thought you were happy. No wonder this breakup came as a surprise. And to make matters worse, their reasons for breaking up just don’t make sense. Like out of left […]
As a relationship coach, it’s definitely not my job to publicly weigh in on celebrity disputes when I don’t even know the people involved. It is my job, however, to look for “teachable moments” and try to provide value to people that will help create more conscious, loving and productive relationships. This is one of […]
As a breakup therapist, and author of the blog and book, “Getting Past Your Breakup: How To Turn A Devastating Loss Into The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You,” I receive many questions about what to do before getting back out there. My clients and readers are male and female, of all ages and […]
“He’s a really nice guy,” Vanessa said, “but I just don’t know if Ben and I are meant to be together. I’m thinking about breaking up with him, but I’m not sure. How do I decide?” It’s a question that plagues many singles: should I break up with my partner or stick it out a […]
It always hurts when someone breaks up with us, even if it happens after a single date. The more we perceived the person as being ‘right’ for us, the more we pictured ourselves with them, the more we allowed our expectations to build, the greater our heartache and disappointment can be. It’s natural to reflect […]
Sometimes life feels like a boating excursion on a sunny afternoon—smooth sailing, peaceful, and enjoyable. Other times it can feel more like a boxing match, where you are pummeled and down for the count. Everyone has times when they endure setbacks, disappointments, and failures. Psychologists and spiritual leaders agree that resilience is what makes the difference between […]
We’ve all heard the saying “forgive and forget,” but how many of us truly know what this means or how to do it? Forgiveness involves engaging with a complex series of emotions – anger, pain, frustration, and fear – which most of us try to avoid. Unfortunately, we can’t escape these feelings in life, at […]
There is nothing worse than being excited about connecting with someone just to get a dial tone, a voicemail, or no call back. We ALL know what it’s like to experience rejection and I have NEVER heard someone say, “I just love the idea of being rejected.” Rejection is rough. It is also a gift. […]
When someone you care about ends a relationship, it can evoke feelings that range from disbelief to despair and everything in between. “How could this happen?” you think. “There must be something wrong with me.” The same is true when someone with whom you’d like to explore a relationship doesn’t return the interest. “I thought […]